For a long time I thought effort was the way. Deserving was the way. Being better. Trying harder. Striving. Not stopping. Until I realized that I was too anxious, too sensitive, too exhausted by all of that striving. I couldn’t do it anymore.

A friend of mine told me that her husband has a post-it in the bathroom mirror that says, “Be better!” and my heart sort of breaks when I imagine this. I think it motivates him, gets him amped for the day, but I can’t stop thinking about that post-it and how it’s pasted somewhere inside all of our hearts.

Be better.

No matter how good you are. You always need to be doing more. This is what the culture tells us – you are not doing enough. You are not enough.

We think we are lazy when we need to rest, failing our kids if they aren’t scheduled with lots of extracurriculars and failing at mothering when we don’t have a home cooked meal on the table every night. We are anxious and exhausted and as we scroll through our social media feeds, thinking our life isn’t beautiful enough or big enough, famous enough or successful enough.

One of the best things I’ve done during the last year and a half was lead a circle of amazing women every Friday. They are women just like you – who want to create more ease, more joy and live life in more vibrant ways.

We want to know that we are enough, just as we are. We want to strive less and enjoy more. We want to relate to ourselves with more compassion and feel more joy. We want dreams come true and also the comfort of knowing that right here, right now is all there is. 

I have two circles opening up now. (Limited number of spots) And you are invited to join me!